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Five “Beauty Food” Tips

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Five “Beauty Food” Tips

(that you don’t already know)

1. Lemon water in the morning is great… for some, but not great for others.

This “trick” of starting the day with lemon water is really popular and said to help detoxify your system (meaning it gets your digestion going). But, lemon first thing is way too acidic for some constitutions, according to a conversation I had with Dr. Taz when I did a 360 degree physical assessment in 2017.

So, as always, listen to your body: you can try to start your day with lemon water but check in with how you feel.

2. Stay hydrated (from the outside in).

This is kind of random, but it works very well to stay hydrated and prevent the sniffles: use a humidifier year-round.

A tip shared with me by my all-time favorite dermatologist, use a humidifier at night right by your face when you sleep. I use this one. The mist really hydrates your sinuses, and moist sinuses are a much better defense against common colds and irritants than dry ones. You inhale moisture all night long which hydrates your skin. Bonus: really helps me stay asleep at night.

3. “Batch.”

If you follow any foodie person on social media, especially people trying to help moms get kids to eat healthy food throughout the week, they suggest you “batch.”

“Batching” means baking off a boatload of food – usually big baking sheets full of sliced veggies – to roast all at once and then use in various dishes throughout the week.

Personally, I cannot commit to eating any one item that many meals in a row, so batching on Sunday in this way leaves me with leftovers that I throw out by Wednesday.

But, I can commit to batching either a juice or a milkshake. I make a big pitcher and freeze the rest. I pull one out of the freezer the night before and this is my first morning meal or to go snack. Specifically, I batch green juice (I have a cheat for making green juice easily) and I always batch smoothies and nut milks.

How to batch nut milks easily is a whole other post because nut milks can be tricky and if making something is too difficult, I won’t do it. I always have shortcuts. Remind me to talk about that someday?

4. Dust your coffee/tea.

To back up a second, because you’re smart, and the reason behind this tip’s frequent success could help you in a lot of aspects of your life…

This tip could also be titled: “Add just one thing that’s really good to your already-existing routine – rather than trying to change your routine.”

Adding something to what you’re already doing is a proven way to better your habits. There is SO much out there around changing habits, and I have read an obscene number of books on changing habits. Hands-down, the experts say that the most effective way to create better habits is TO NOT try and change habits. Instead, create better habits by add onto existing ones.

Specific suggestion: Add a teaspoon of chaga to your morning concoction of choice whether it’s a latte, coffee, tea, or morning shake. Chaga has tons of wellness benefits, it’s incredible for your skin’s cell turnover, so the experts tell us, plus it’s earthy flavor goes well with lattes and black teas and anything chocolatey.

5. It rhymes with “nest.”

Can you guess?? What rhymes with nest that is THE BEST thing for your digestion, your skin, your organs, and your mental health?

It is rest. Maybe not a beauty “food” but definitely a beauty practice, rest is a practice that I, personally, have been trying to learn how to do ever since I left my law firm in 2010. To suggest that you “rest more” may sound like a boring suggestion and kind of vague, but there’s so much more to rest than most of us suspect.

The reason rest is a panacea for so many issues is many-layered. Basically, your body needs a serious pause in your day to be able to switch from your parasympathetic nervous system (THINK: laser-focus, multi-tasking, juggling multiple mental to-do’s) to sympathetic nervous system (THINK: breathing slows, feel curious about stuff rather than hurried, shoulders drop/relax).

I’m going to be honest with you: my money is on the fact that none of us really are willing to explore how to rest daily, but even if we did try to rest, say, 10 minutes after lunch each day, we would do it incorrectly. And by “incorrectly,” I mean unsuccessfully. We just don’t know how to relax. We forget we even have bodies, most of the day, let alone check in with our bodies and see if we can help our bodies rest.

When we rest, we can detox, rejuvenate our cells, release held tension. All good stuff. So – why is it so freaking hard to do?

We’re so bewildered on how to rest because we physically get stuck in fight-or-flight mode as a result of everything flying at us. Whether it’s flashing screens, driving among other cars, hyper-focusing on work or our kids, our freaking kidneys stay terrified and tucked way up behind our lower ribs, rather than dropping and operating on full cylinders. (Maybe this is TMI to bring up but if your bathroom schedule is not regular, this is a sign that you’re stuck in fight-or-flight too much of the time.)

I’m not a doctor, I’m not a nutritionist, I’m not a holistic-healer – I’m honestly just speaking from my own experience.

You’re of above-average intelligence, I have no doubt. And I believe you can reach back into your memories, as I can, to those moments when we experienced terrible health during stressful times. And maybe we can remember other times when we hardly needed sleep to have energy and great health. Rest has that giant of an impact on our wellbeing physically, emotionally and mentally.

I’m gong on and on, I know. Sorry! But I this is something I’ve come to believe strongly in. I personally believe that resting, really, learning how to rest, is the single best skill we can learn for our physical wellbeing, and teach our children, spouses and eventually maybe even our culture, to heal in every sense of that word.

Like I said: Rest, while not a “beauty food,” is definitely a beauty practice for inner and outer beauty, wellbeing of our families… world peace, even?? I mean, possibly.

Here’s the easiest way I know to start resting:

  • Copy your pet. Whether it’s your cat, your dog, your horse or your goldfish (or, a memory of a pet or even someone else’s pet), literally do what they are doing. It may be napping, staring at the fire, or playing, but the majority of a healthy animal’s lifetime is spent in rest mode. Rest doesn’t always mean sitting still. Our pets eat, roam, and explore. Just watch and learn.

One of my favorite workshops I ever offered was on Deep Rest for Busy Moms.

We should do that one again sometime! Maybe online so all of us can show up for some deep rest…


Take one of these tips that resonates for you, try it out, and see what you think.

Don’t like how it feels?? Toss it back.

You are the authority on you. And anyone who tells you otherwise is not the right teacher for you.

 

Announcing GLOW PORTER :: beauty snacks for glowing skin

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It’s pretty surprising. But, here we are!

Amelie and I have spent most of her 4 (um… how is she that old?!?) years on earth experimenting with superfood concoctions in the kitchen.

We love LOVE sharing the experiments and the health with our friends and family, which brings me to today’s announcement:

We are offering a very soft, mini-launch of beauty snacks – that are legitimately yummy and incredible for your skin called.

Glow Porter

beauty snacks for glowing skin.

Our little store is here.

A fresh menu of snacks is available to order each Monday, sales close Tuesday nights.

And in case you are curious, keep reading to find out what else we’ve been up to for the past (*cough*) year?? more?? since my last big announcement.

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New South Beauty Cooklet!

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New South Beauty Cooklet

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  • Delicious (no matter your diet – plant-based, paleo, omnivore…)
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Dope Playlist #2 // The New South

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My happiest memories from my childhood all have something to do with my family’s farm.

I even loved the drive out I-20 East from Atlanta that we took every Friday when my dad was done with work. All four of us (plus our dogs and the cats that braved the highway in crates that my dad bungeed down back in the open bed of his pickup truck) shared space in the truck’s cab in a fragile togetherness rarely enjoyed as a young family of four. In the hour long ride, no one spoke besides the inevitable squabble between my older sister and I about who had more space in the back seat. Once our weekly fight began, my mom or dad dealt with the irritation of sibling rivalry by inserting a cassette tape of either bluegrass or country or gospel music and pressing play. And turning the volume up.

I made a playlist that captures the music and feeling of these weekly family pilgrimages to a place that, for me, held the very best of us.

I call it:

The New South.

 

Breaking My Heart Forward

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•MLK Jr. Day, 2019 •

Here’s a question that I don’t know the answer to:

• How do you explain the Civil Rights movement to a four year old? …Especially when she differentiates between kids – and grown ups – solely based on who’s “bigger.” (Bigger, to my four year old daughter, means taller.) She never mentions skin color.

Segregation, racism, Civil Rights… it’s a lot to cover when all she asked is:

  1. Who is MLK? and
  2. Can I dance ballet after my snack?

What I ended up saying…

“MLK worked hard his whole life to be sure every person was kind to every other person no matter what.”

Lame, right? Sanitized, inadequate explanation for my bright girl. It’s best I had on the spot. I thought to myself, “Kindness is an important value for our family, maybe I can tie MLK into that…” Still, I felt how I’d stripped the life and fire out of the American martyr, Martin Luther King.

•••

Later, I googled,

“How to explain civil rights to small children?”

And, this picture came up.

Instantly I started crying because I look at her and see my daughter.

All of our daughters.

Can you imagine being her parent? Being her mother, whose body offered itself like clay so that the invisible hand of life could form tiny cells into a person, a human baby, her baby? The mother who, for the past six years, washes her soup bowls, can always find her favorite sweater, and knows everything she’s thinking just by the look in her eyes?

This first black girl to go to a white elementary school in segregated 1960, requires police escort so that she isn’t physically attacked has a mom like I’m a mom. And I think, the escort can’t stop the words, the verbal violence that penetrates her small ears. She still moves through a sea of fury that won’t part for her, not even an inch, not even for a child.

Her mom, with the faith of Abraham, sent her baby girl to school.

How terrifying does the whole world look to you, when you’re so little in the face of so much hate?

How terrified do you have to be to hate this little girl?

For many of us the world looks way better today. That’s real. And what’s also real is that my world as a white American cannot compare to the world of every minority in America, the disenfranchised and hungry and oppressed, all around the world. Those of us who are privileged are very few, and we are born into responsibility. What are we going to do about all of it? All of the suffering? It’s been 60 years since this picture was taken, and I wonder if we are remotely on the path toward love. Toward healing. Toward kindness. It’s almost too much to contemplate. (And we don’t get a choice; we have to do more than just contemplate.)

But you know what else this picture showed me?

That I can also share with my four year old?

• One person *really and truly* can change the world from {how it is} to —> how it should be.

Even when – especially when – you’re just one person, even just a little girl. •

What our children need us to understand.

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I have a confession to make.

Have you ever deeply hated something, but still found it impossible to let yourself off of the hook? You kept going along or kept showing up even though you dreaded the thing?

Maybe it’s a networking group that you just cannot get yourself to say no to. Maybe it’s some annual family tradition or something as a parent that you continue to trudge along to, even though it’s the worst.

As for me, I really cannot stand those mommy-and-me classes that you take your baby or toddler to, but I keep going to them.

If you’re not a parent or if you’ve never been to these classes, let me explain why they’re an advanced form of torture.

Let’s take mommy-and-me music class, for example.

A room full of very tired adults paste on a smile and act the buffoon for one hour while avoiding eye contact with anyone else in the room. The adults sit in a circle and sing very bad music, a.k.a. “children’s songs,” which will play in their heads incessantly preventing restful sleep for days to follow. Meanwhile, the children do whatever the %$#@ they want to, screaming and running around or staring like a zombie at the bizarre spectacle of their nanny crawling on the floor and singling about zoo animals. The kids almost never participate in any way in the musical torture. Sometimes, adults run around in a circle while their child rides on their backs, pulling hair and holding on by the nostrils, while the adult sings a song vaguely about a horse or a firetruck but with no meaningful storyline.

I could go on, but you get the point. The classes are weird and not in a fun way. However, I still go. I feel like my daughter benefits, possibly? Makes me feel like I’m a good mom?

The point of sharing the story is that a miracle happened.

Really this is kind of a double-miracle.

Last month, Amelie and I spent a simply divine hour-and-a-half at a mommy-and-me art class. That’s a miracle for me.

Which brings us to what our children need us to understand.

The other miracle is precisely what our children (and the world) deeply needs from us.

The miracle looks like this:

When we walked through the door, Amelie beelines to one of the six art stations. There, she paints using the wheels of a small, toy truck as the “brush” dipping its wheels in white paint and running it over the paper. Then, she mixes pink and orange paint using the top of the truck and stamps the paper with this combination.

Then, for no clear reason, she stops truck-painting.

With confidence, she walks to another station to make babies and monsters out of cinnamon play-dough.

If you have children, this may sound normal, but in our society, witnessing this means watching a miracle. Why is this miracle?

The answer to that question is crucial for our own body alchemy practices.

Being three-years-old, Amelie has something that most of us no longer possess and that we relearn through body alchemy.

She is in flow with her body.

Amelie is fully present in her body. She reacts to her bodies’ communications so instantly that there’s no mental consideration involved. Because her body is also fully aligned with inner intuition, her body takes her where her intuition tells her to go.

We find this state of flow when we can begin to truly connect to our physical bodies.

Our bodies’ purpose is to be the conductor of our intuition’s direction.

When we are in that intuitive flow, our bodies are poetry in motion, like a lightning rod grounding divine messages shot from the universe.

If we want to find our purpose, we can always start by getting in sync with our bodies. 

You can start right now.

The Secret to Quick + Easy Packing For Your Whole Family

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As I’m writing this, I’m about to embark on a 400-mile road trip with my daughter. I spent most of last night and this morning packing clothes, diapers, shampoo, the favorite flowered shorts, the sound machine… a LOT of stuff for us two. When provisioning for a big trip, like this one, I typically feel anxious as I walk around the house with my packing list which I add to as I remember even more items to include (my very favorite pillow, her very favorite spoon with a handle shaped like a rabbit). My nervous momentum originates from a belief: I’m responsible for remembering every tiny item that we might possibly need.

But this time while packing, I felt peaceful. Why?  Read More

Who else wants a peaceful day?

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It’s been a while since I have posted due to a very busy spring and early summer, full of work commitments (more than I expected), travel (much more than I’d planned for), and lots of family time (more than typical, for me). These are all great things. All of the changes in my life these days bring me great joy and also bring with them the sadness of letting go of old routines in my home life and work life. It’s the end of a season, and the beginning of a new era.

And since last we spoke, I’ve been contemplating one concept, in particular, through all of these new epochs:
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How I maintain high energy without over-caffeinating

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A little over one year ago, my husband came to me with an idea.

“I might do a cleanse. Want to do it together?”

“Sure.” I said.

As much as I geek out about juices and smoothies and super foods, I’d never done a cleanse. I truly bristle against food rules in any form be they under the guise of Whole30 or Paleo or whatever. Like, I don’t Read More

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